Comments on: Help an Alcoholic to Stop Drinking http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/ Embracing the Journey Mon, 21 May 2012 09:57:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.6 by: Albert Pupo http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-182072 Sat, 19 May 2012 20:46:09 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-182072 I have been dealing with my wife alcoholism for about 10 years. I has drag me to the bottom of depresion with her alcoholism. I don't drink alcohol I don't go to any social event tha has to deal with alcohol, I don't have friends. My father passed away 5 month ago and went to it and she did a very distasteful show. I have been in provation at my 20 years job because of her. She drinks an transfor into a violent person that loves to fight abuses our teenager. Tell me if I have to belief in any alanon bull, I am going to divorce her. That es the best thing to do. I don't want to be around when mister liver cance (hepatic-sirrosis) take a good swing at her. The bottom line if you have an alcoholic in your family help him/her as far as you can or let the bastard drink until they die. I have been dealing with my wife alcoholism for about 10 years. I has drag me to the bottom of depresion with her alcoholism. I don’t drink alcohol I don’t go to any social event tha has to deal with alcohol, I don’t have friends. My father passed away 5 month ago and went to it and she did a very distasteful show. I have been in provation at my 20 years job because of her. She drinks an transfor into a violent person that loves to fight abuses our teenager. Tell me if I have to belief in any alanon bull, I am going to divorce her. That es the best thing to do. I don’t want to be around when mister liver cance (hepatic-sirrosis) take a good swing at her.
The bottom line if you have an alcoholic in your family help him/her as far as you can or let the bastard drink until they die.

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]]> by: Taken http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-162316 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 04:22:39 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-162316 Well, I was with an alcoholic for 3 years and talked to him gently, got mad and screamed cause of the broken promises, etc, etc, ect,,,,, I finally gave an ultimatum and he bailed with another alcoholic in 2 days--instant live in relationship. Talk about painful! I loved this man soooo deeply and this was just devistatiing! He cut me off from all of his family. Everything I knew was gone. Just sooo Cruel and unloving or caring. What I went through for 3 years was not appreciated one bit. I was played, taken. My advice if you are hoping for an alcoholic to change--BAIL before they do! Alcohol is first and you don't matter in comparison. Even if they say they love you it's shallow, on the reqirement that you stay! He even wanted to marry me! Don't believe their lies. Get out before you waste years of your life hoping and believing. Well, I was with an alcoholic for 3 years and talked to him gently, got mad and screamed cause of the broken promises, etc, etc, ect,,,,, I finally gave an ultimatum and he bailed with another alcoholic in 2 days–instant live in relationship. Talk about painful! I loved this man soooo deeply and this was just devistatiing! He cut me off from all of his family. Everything I knew was gone. Just sooo Cruel and unloving or caring. What I went through for 3 years was not appreciated one bit. I was played, taken. My advice if you are hoping for an alcoholic to change–BAIL before they do! Alcohol is first and you don’t matter in comparison. Even if they say they love you it’s shallow, on the reqirement that you stay! He even wanted to marry me! Don’t believe their lies. Get out before you waste years of your life hoping and believing.

]]> by: Tracy http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-110694 Fri, 29 Jul 2011 06:00:14 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-110694 My sister is an alcoholic and cannot admit to drinking excessively for any reason at all. The family has mentioned to her that she is drinking too much.. She has an older friend that aides her drinking. They are best friends. My sister's husband has asked that she not bring alcohol to the house for my sister because it puts everyone in turmoil the days after. This friend says that my sister is a big girl and can make her own decisions. How in the world do I get my sister's best friend to listen to the pleas of our family w out alienating my sister? My sister is an alcoholic and cannot admit to drinking excessively for any reason at all. The family has mentioned to her that she is drinking too much.. She has an older friend that aides her drinking. They are best friends. My sister’s husband has asked that she not bring alcohol to the house for my sister because it puts everyone in turmoil the days after. This friend says that my sister is a big girl and can make her own decisions. How in the world do I get my sister’s best friend to listen to the pleas of our family w out alienating my sister?

]]> by: Araceli Guevara http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-101172 Mon, 20 Jun 2011 22:18:32 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-101172 I like websites like this to help one another. Very encourageing and love giving, and that is what us need, emotional support when we are alone in this such hard and cold world at times, but not always cause this is where we get our love from these kind of places where we can visit. May god watch us all and help us concer our battle of hell.... Sinceraly Araceli G :) I like websites like this to help one another. Very encourageing and love giving, and that is what us need, emotional support when we are alone in this such hard and cold world at times, but not always cause this is where we get our love from these kind of places where we can visit. May god watch us all and help us concer our battle of hell….

Sinceraly Araceli G :)

]]> by: areukidding@nope.com http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-49332 Wed, 20 Oct 2010 05:34:10 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-49332 If a single person has learnt a single thing about addiction from this this stupid site.. thaaaan guess what you're not an addict. Fucking morons. If a single person has learnt a single thing about addiction from this this stupid site.. thaaaan guess what you’re not an addict. Fucking morons.

]]> by: Horsch http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-48798 Sat, 16 Oct 2010 15:47:21 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-48798 Hello, I just stopped by your blog and wanted to say hi. You have a lot of really great content here, I can't wait to read more. Have a great day! Hello, I just stopped by your blog and wanted to say hi. You have a lot of really great content here, I can’t wait to read more. Have a great day!

]]> by: Borman http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-48741 Sat, 16 Oct 2010 04:54:15 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-48741 Hello, I just stopped by your blog and wanted to say hi. You have a lot of really great content here, I can't wait to read more. Have a great day! Hello, I just stopped by your blog and wanted to say hi. You have a lot of really great content here, I can’t wait to read more. Have a great day!

]]> by: denial is destrucitve http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-41871 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 14:15:01 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-41871 Thank you for the information. My father was an alcoholic and my sibling has drug problems to say the least. Much of my life I have dealt with my emotions through anger then I went to therapy and got a hold on that for the most part. Things have been beyond stressful for so long now that I have turned to the one thing I never thought could be a problem for me...alcohol. I have had many various blackout episodes which sometimes turned into me verbally abusing my spouse, fiance at the time. We've now been married for almost two years. Whenever an "episode" occurred I couldn't remember anything but apologized profusely and told him I can't promise to never do it again but I know I need to get a handle on my alcohol consumption. I thought it was that one or two extra drinks that did it and flipped the black out switch. I asked my husband many times if he thought I was an alcoholic because I didn't feel like I was and he always said no but that I need to not drink for a while and get a handle on my problems. I've been going to therapy for a while now but my life has become even more stressful over this past year I started to drink much more and in secret, something I didn't do before. In fact, after episodes, I many time quit drinking for at least a month or more. Anyway I began hiding alcohol and drinking in secret. My husband suspected such but didn't find anything and he was afraid to ask me. I then another episode in which I blacked out and said ridiculous, scary, nonsensical things to my husband. I also threatened him and slapped him on the back. He was so afraid of what I would do he went to a grocery store parking lot. I then started coming out of the black out and was very scared but it was displaced as I felt scared of my husband and locked him out of the house. It took a bit but I started to realize I wasn't afraid of him and let him in. It was so scary I had never woke up soon after a black out and in the middle of such mahem. I can't imagine how he felt and I completely understand it. We started to talk about it over the next few days and in the beginning he said he didn't think I was an alcoholic but just that I should never drink because of the chance of another episode. However I then confessed to the past incidences of drinking in secret and hiding alcohol. It had just confirmed his suspicions. I had then realized, though it really took some thinking and soul searching because I knew admitting would mean taking away my only solace from my emotions. However I realized and admitted to myself then to him that I am an alcoholic. I am taking one day at a time but I know that alcohol cannot be a part of my future. Do I miss it? Yes, but it doesn't compare to missing my life, my husband and the opportunity to get healthy and be happy. My husband is having a hard time not thinking about what happened and we are getting along but he said he needs to move out indefinetly and I felt very supportive of that but he didn't leave right away and having him home and our talks about what's gone have been very good for me and I think helpful to him but he then told me a week later that he was going to be leaving over the next few days. He said he felt so much guilt like it was all his fault and he needed to collect himself and I was supportive of that. Now that he's leaving I just feel abandoned and scared. Am I being selfish? Thank you for the information. My father was an alcoholic and my sibling has drug problems to say the least. Much of my life I have dealt with my emotions through anger then I went to therapy and got a hold on that for the most part. Things have been beyond stressful for so long now that I have turned to the one thing I never thought could be a problem for me…alcohol. I have had many various blackout episodes which sometimes turned into me verbally abusing my spouse, fiance at the time. We’ve now been married for almost two years. Whenever an “episode” occurred I couldn’t remember anything but apologized profusely and told him I can’t promise to never do it again but I know I need to get a handle on my alcohol consumption. I thought it was that one or two extra drinks that did it and flipped the black out switch. I asked my husband many times if he thought I was an alcoholic because I didn’t feel like I was and he always said no but that I need to not drink for a while and get a handle on my problems. I’ve been going to therapy for a while now but my life has become even more stressful over this past year I started to drink much more and in secret, something I didn’t do before. In fact, after episodes, I many time quit drinking for at least a month or more. Anyway I began hiding alcohol and drinking in secret. My husband suspected such but didn’t find anything and he was afraid to ask me. I then another episode in which I blacked out and said ridiculous, scary, nonsensical things to my husband. I also threatened him and slapped him on the back. He was so afraid of what I would do he went to a grocery store parking lot. I then started coming out of the black out and was very scared but it was displaced as I felt scared of my husband and locked him out of the house. It took a bit but I started to realize I wasn’t afraid of him and let him in. It was so scary I had never woke up soon after a black out and in the middle of such mahem. I can’t imagine how he felt and I completely understand it. We started to talk about it over the next few days and in the beginning he said he didn’t think I was an alcoholic but just that I should never drink because of the chance of another episode. However I then confessed to the past incidences of drinking in secret and hiding alcohol. It had just confirmed his suspicions. I had then realized, though it really took some thinking and soul searching because I knew admitting would mean taking away my only solace from my emotions. However I realized and admitted to myself then to him that I am an alcoholic. I am taking one day at a time but I know that alcohol cannot be a part of my future. Do I miss it? Yes, but it doesn’t compare to missing my life, my husband and the opportunity to get healthy and be happy.
My husband is having a hard time not thinking about what happened and we are getting along but he said he needs to move out indefinetly and I felt very supportive of that but he didn’t leave right away and having him home and our talks about what’s gone have been very good for me and I think helpful to him but he then told me a week later that he was going to be leaving over the next few days. He said he felt so much guilt like it was all his fault and he needed to collect himself and I was supportive of that. Now that he’s leaving I just feel abandoned and scared. Am I being selfish?

]]> by: Joe http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-33489 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 04:18:16 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/help-an-alcoholic-stop-drinking/#comment-33489 Hey i just wanted to write and say thank you for the info. Im currently dealing with a girl i know that is highly addicted at the age of 23..very sad.. I have never dealt with this sort of thing head on but it runs in my family and i have watched my family members loose there kids and die as a result of this disease.. This girl means alot to me and im trying to help her as much as possible. I was diagnosed with explosive anger and have gotten lots of help for that. I havent had my temper flare up so much in such a long time like i have had with her. Since i notice this in myself i can control it. By helping her she helps me to re-tackle my anger and put my energy to good use with talking to her about God and ways she can get help and just supporting her and not putting up with her excuses. Your blog was uplifting. Thank you. Hey i just wanted to write and say thank you for the info. Im currently dealing with a girl i know that is highly addicted at the age of 23..very sad.. I have never dealt with this sort of thing head on but it runs in my family and i have watched my family members loose there kids and die as a result of this disease.. This girl means alot to me and im trying to help her as much as possible. I was diagnosed with explosive anger and have gotten lots of help for that. I havent had my temper flare up so much in such a long time like i have had with her. Since i notice this in myself i can control it. By helping her she helps me to re-tackle my anger and put my energy to good use with talking to her about God and ways she can get help and just supporting her and not putting up with her excuses. Your blog was uplifting. Thank you.

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