Blame, shame, and manipulation is the blanket form of expression characterized by the expressions we’ve already looked at. Although everything we’re looking at in this series can be called not authentic, breaking them down into identifiable parts seems to make it manageable so that in looking at specifically why it’s harmful and how, we can find the remedy and apply it. [This is part 6 of 7 in the series “Words can Harm. Words can Heal.”]
Part 5 of a 7 part Samsaras Series, “Gossip” is explored as another unhealthy and harmful way in which many of us communicate - even perhaps unnoticingly - on a daily basis. At it’s most heinous form, gossip can lead to rumors and at the end of those rumors are people. So while gossip is no living entity we practice it as if it is, harming people we may not even be aware of, as it goes on. Let’s explore Gossip.
Part 4 of a 7 part Samsaras Series on the power of Words, “Sarcasm” delves into the roots of sarcastic language and why it is so harmful. This dishonest expression has its roots, not in humor, but in the greek ’sarkazein’ and literally means “to cut a piece of flesh.” Wonder no more why you feel hurt when someone has just been sarcastic with you. No, it wasn’t meant to be funny.
Part 3 of a 7 part Samsaras Series on the power of Words. This article will address name-calling and labels and how to more effectively engage in conversations before it degrades into name calling and labels.
Part 2 of a 7 part Samsaras Series on the power of Words. If words can harm then words can heal. This article will address the different fundamentals of communication and a refresher on The Four Agreements. Verbal abuse is not the same as miscommunication and will also touch on Codependency in relationships.
Part 1 of a 7 part Samsaras Series on the power of Words. If words can harm then words can heal. Discussion of different variations of verbal communication and how harmful words can hurt and how to begin to use healing words as part of our everyday communication. Examples and alternatives to the unhealthy communication many of us have become accustomed to. I hope this is successful and that you enjoy it!
I need help of a technical nature. Technorati hasn’t updated or pinged this blog in weeks! I use Wordpress I have seen mention of problems with Technorati failing to ping Wordpress blogs before. I have my software set up to auto-ping Technorati and when that’s failed, I have gone to Technorati to manually ping. Nothing’s working. Anyone else?
Catchy title isn’t it? Abraham Cherrix, a teenager of Virginia, had to go to court in order to defend his right to bypass more unsuccessful chemotherapy and radiation for his Hodgkins Disease. He opted for unconventional treatment and his parents were accused of neglect. I think the United States government has gotten too far-reaching into the lives of its citizens. Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. What does this mean to our government?
I am the most important person. And it is all about me. This means if I want to help you, extend myself to you, or be of service to you, I have to put me first. This also means I don?t have to help you if I don?t want to and the reason is none of your business. If this sounds even kind of cutting edge to you…welcome to my world. It’s a great place to live.
August 09th is my birthday and it was a great birthday this year 2006. So fabulous as I shared it with those I love and ate the food I like the best - Mexican! Got gifts and gift cards and people sang to me. Oh I do love to celebrtate my birthday. Click the title and look at me wearing the fabulous sombrero. This is a plug for La Bamba! The best Mexican restaurant in the world - where I live. Javier will have the snapshot of me on the wall soon I am quite confident.
Have you ever tried to give up sugar only to find your mood was better when you just had a little candy bar or added some sugar to your coffee? As we used to joke about sugar addiction, scientists and Ph.D.’s are now discovering we may not have been so off. With my experiences supporting it, I know the lengths I went to to escape the deadly poison I call sugar.
We are living in a reactionary period and the U.S. government has invoked and provoked more fear into the hearts of their citizens more so than any act of terror from foreign hostiles have.
Or what about when I see someone trying to control me by punishing me. What if they really are trying to teach me a lesson or make me suffer? What about that? Is there such a thing as righteously thinking or really knowing someone is trying to punish, hurt, shame, blame me?
I’m south of the Mason Dixon line and for the past 24 hours it’s been one long drive. Nothing makes me feel grimier than travel and finally. After morning showers, and as my beloved sleeps here in our comfy bed in our comfy hotel room I couldn’t help but create an entry for a memory. […]
“From Alcohol to Academics” ( http://cgbtemp.blogspot.com/ ) is about a kid who’s trying to grab that brass ring. He considers himself as having had a problem with alcohol who’s trying to not waste away in the bars anymore. His blog is a real life tear-jerking Hallmark Movie.
I’m kind of bloggingly anti-social I know. I have been trying to reach out more into the blogosphere so if you’d be so kind as to comment [to this post] just to say “Hi” I’d appreciate it. It’s not that I’m a snob, or grossly intellectual, I just don’t have a lot to say except when I’m moved by a post.
My personal soil - I am of the opinion - was not yet ready for The Book of Secrets when I embarked my maiden voyage. Yours may be. Maybe your daily living is already such that your soil is tilled and ready for this new planting.
Oh this is going to be a philosophical one, isn’t it? I can tell from the title this is going to be a philosophical one. Thinking aloud. Who shall my audience be for this article? Shall it be the realist or pragmatist who would believe in only one reality? Or shall it be my HSP […]
I’ve manifested illness. Last year I suffered terribly and extensively up until 2006 from one thing or the other. I had never been this sick before. But, yet, I’d also never gone through a divorce or had a job in the outside world before.
I am a Highly Sensitive Person. As a result of knowing this to be an integral make-up of who I am, I have now designated a category all to its own making as I imagine I shall have many things to say on this matter of HSP.
Don Miguel Ruiz’ book, The Four Agreements, started me on a spiritual journey that would lead me into renouncing the rules that kept me sick and suffering. These four agreements have transformed my life and I believe that when approached by anyone with an open mind - usually only those who have been mangled quite well - can transform their entire life’s approach.
I controlled the mismanagement by harming myself. I look at it as trying to drown it away, starve it away, crap it out, sweeten it up, and then cut it out. So what is codependency and why is it so harmful?
I define a codependent relationship to simply be any relationship in which one or both partner/s turn over their own autonomy for well-being into the hands of the other. The question then becomes: How can you heal from it after you recognize it?
See over there to the right in the column? Scroll down. No a little further. Okay. Almost to the bottom of the page under the Egocentrism header? It says “Blogroll Me.”
God speaks to us. It’s no mystery or puzzle. God is not the enigma. We are. We ignore, avoid, run. God makes it quite plain no matter your path. You may justify it, deny it, cover it up, or hope so bad it to be different you let it go unnoticed but the signs are there.
Since I seem to have gotten my spirituality back after much struggling from the past year, I have decided to make a new category with the hope I’ll have opportunities to notice more growth.
Some people in A.A. would say that if you can get sober without A.A. then you are not a real alcoholic. These same people would say that unless you join A.A., and you are a real alcoholic, then you will not get sober. This article is going to prove how the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, itself, refutes that idea.
Categories will not list the # of posts to the right of the “Category Name Link” but on top and to the left if I enable it. Sorry for the aesthetic problem. If you’re familiar with Wordpress, php calls and stylesheets please let me know. Thanks.
An HSP is a Highly Sensitive Person. If you’re in a relationship with an HSP this article will hopefully explain and offer support in techniques that work in fostering a highly satisfying relationship with an HSP. On the contrary end, what one would do in order to perpetuate problems within the relationship.
Quite political of me I know. Thinking of adopting another category altogether entitled “Political” for when I feel the need to offer the occasional musing or rant. Want to make clear this article is not intended to inspire debate. It’s just my personal piece of take-it-for-what-it’s-worth, thinking it could give the reader something to consider not considered before.
For years and years I tried to please. I tried to please you because you would fill up my bucket if I pleased you correctly. Yes, I lived my life around some diseased people and my having my own disease well…you can see the mess. And in my perfect world I’d still be doing it.
Somewhere in one of Melody Beattie’s books she makes it clear that when we grieve as we engage this process of recovery that we are not insane. Please do not let it absorb when anyone tries convincing you otherwise. Grief is not insanity. Grief may be painful but it’s not insane.
Alcoholics Anonymous? is *NOT* a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope by trying to get you to see that Jesus will save you. Members of A.A. who proclaim this message, no matter how implicit or benign, go against the very foundation A.A. is founded upon.
Detachment. Those close to Buddhist Philosophy understand that detachment is the secret to happiness and serenity. It is not a concept for the faint of heart because it means detachment of all things, people, concepts, ideas. Even this article. How can this be? Because, my friend, you are a wave and tomorrow it may no longer apply.
You don’t know but you’re hoping for the best. You don’t want a test because you couldn’t bear the wait. Thinking you probably don’t have it, but not really knowing, so why not continue on with unsafe sex. Or with denial. I’ve been there. I lived. And you will too. This post is to offer moral support to anyone whose conscience has been dictating they need the HIV test but fear is preventing it.