Comments on: The HSP & Relationships http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/ Embracing the Journey Wed, 19 Nov 2008 12:58:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.6 by: Kevin Wicker http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-153 Wed, 23 Aug 2006 00:19:07 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-153 Have a strong sense of self esteem, and an ability to see the bigger picture. Love isn't as fulfilling unless it is given away. Give yourself time away from your HSP partner, as well. Having quality time with yourself makes you stronger and more grounded. However, abuse is out of the question. You are doing the abuser (and yourself) a big favor by removing yourself from the relationship -- the sooner the better. Have a strong sense of self esteem, and an ability to see the bigger picture. Love isn’t as fulfilling unless it is given away.
Give yourself time away from your HSP partner, as well. Having quality time with yourself makes you stronger and more grounded.
However, abuse is out of the question. You are doing the abuser (and yourself) a big favor by removing yourself from the relationship — the sooner the better.

]]> by: The HSP, Alcoholic, or Controlling Partner http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-40 Mon, 24 Apr 2006 01:32:33 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-40 [...] I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or  The HSP & Relationships may prove helpful if you’re a bit confused with this term. ] Essentially she wanted to know “What about us?” And that provoked me into thought. She’s right. What about those people involved with the Highly Sensitive Person? Or the alcoholic/addict for that matter? [...] […] I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or  The HSP & Relationships may prove helpful if you’re a bit confused with this term. ] Essentially she wanted to know “What about us?” And that provoked me into thought. She’s right. What about those people involved with the Highly Sensitive Person? Or the alcoholic/addict for that matter? […]

]]> by: samsara http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-38 Thu, 20 Apr 2006 22:24:48 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-38 Oh sweet Vivien, Your life is yours and yours alone. When abuse starts, labels go out the window. Whether he's HSP or alcoholic [or both], HIS actions are making you unhappy. Yes, I have suggested readings. The books in the sidebar..."Beyond Codependency" or "Codependent No More" or the "Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" are all highly suggested by me for you. Codependent relationships are those ties we have with people who hurt us, harm us, abuse us but, although we hurt, we stay. I think of it as giving the power of myself over to another person and then when they misuse that power and cause me harm, I still allow them to continue to have that power. "Why do they do this to me?" I used to wonder. But now, after codependent issue recovery, I get to ask "Why do I do this to me?" The books I have suggested; namely the "Guide through the Twelve Steps" will hopefully allow you to take back your power. Remember, you can't take care of yourself and another person at the same time. In YOUR life, YOU are the most important person...compassion for others can only be cultivated when you have given it to yourself first. I wish you much peace Vivien. Love, Peace, and Light, Samsara Oh sweet Vivien,

Your life is yours and yours alone. When abuse starts, labels go out the window. Whether he’s HSP or alcoholic [or both], HIS actions are making you unhappy.

Yes, I have suggested readings. The books in the sidebar…”Beyond Codependency” or “Codependent No More” or the “Codependent’s Guide to the Twelve Steps” are all highly suggested by me for you.

Codependent relationships are those ties we have with people who hurt us, harm us, abuse us but, although we hurt, we stay. I think of it as giving the power of myself over to another person and then when they misuse that power and cause me harm, I still allow them to continue to have that power. “Why do they do this to me?” I used to wonder. But now, after codependent issue recovery, I get to ask “Why do I do this to me?”

The books I have suggested; namely the “Guide through the Twelve Steps” will hopefully allow you to take back your power. Remember, you can’t take care of yourself and another person at the same time. In YOUR life, YOU are the most important person…compassion for others can only be cultivated when you have given it to yourself first. I wish you much peace Vivien.

Love, Peace, and Light,
Samsara

]]> by: Vivien http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-37 Thu, 20 Apr 2006 12:26:59 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-37 I just read " The HSP & Relationships" Mar 15th. 2006. I'm married to an HSP who recently told me he started drinking 30 yrs ago when an old boyfriend of mine dropped in to see us. I had forgotten this (I still don't remember). He's been mad at me ever since - all of our married life!!!!! I've wanted OUT of the marriage for a long time but my whole life has been invested into our business - that he will destroy and be unable to run if I leave. I need help - I don't hate him but I'm SO unhappy - I'm exhausted with him! With his withdrawl and anger and verbal abuse. Do you have any articles, info, anything on how to cope with an HSP? There's enough material for the HSPer, but what about those of us who's lives are being destoyed by one? I just read ” The HSP & Relationships” Mar 15th. 2006. I’m married to an HSP who recently told me he started drinking 30 yrs ago when an old boyfriend of mine dropped in to see us. I had forgotten this (I still don’t remember). He’s been mad at me ever since - all of our married life!!!!! I’ve wanted OUT of the marriage for a long time but my whole life has been invested into our business - that he will destroy and be unable to run if I leave. I need help - I don’t hate him but I’m SO unhappy - I’m exhausted with him! With his withdrawl and anger and verbal abuse. Do you have any articles, info, anything on how to cope with an HSP? There’s enough material for the HSPer, but what about those of us who’s lives are being destoyed by one?

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