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]]> by: Hypatia http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-91416 Sun, 08 May 2011 21:58:00 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-91416 My husband is an HSP. I’ve read so many articles about what victims HSP’s are, I’d like to know where are the articles about how chaotic, over reactive, and down right mean they can be when not getting their way. How the world has to change so they can cope. Why is that? This is not just my husband I talking about. Why aren’t HSP’s supposed to manage their own stress. I don’t care if my husband needs time out I’m a big girl and can take care of myself. I don’t need him to hold my hand to carry on with life. I notice before he does that he is getting overwhelmed, if I say anything then all he does is get defensive and say no I’m not and you can bet your bottom dollar that within a few days he’s having another episode of outrageous behavior that is of course my fault even when I’ve done nothing. It’s like he can’t see his own behavior. When we first got together he’s come at me with all this shit about how it’s my entire fault he’s feeling this way and I’d try to defend myself. I’ve learned not to do this(most of the time) and watched him have blowouts without me saying a word just and waking away. It took a while but even he began to see that it was him doing it not me. All I can say is that at least I feel better for not getting caught up in his indefinable demons, what a poor victim he is, everyone is trying to control him. What he hasn’t been able to see is that it is him letting all these other HSP’s and people who have no real significance (I just call them the others because it can be anyone) into his life are causing to be some kind of psychic vampire collecting all their woes as if they are his own. Does he take to time to learn how to close down his energy grid and be concerned or compassionate instead of empathetic and taking it all into himself? NO. It’s easier to be the nice guy so everyone thinks he’s so good and not give a damn about family. Why because he knows that family already know who he really is and how he behaves. We own a business together and I watch how he collects other HSP’s in droves as his clients, all they do is bring chaos into our clinic. No call No show, being chronically late putting him behind for the next client and so he often feels overwhelmed and tense. Does he stop these people from coming into the clinic…? NO. By the end of the week he’s toast and can’t do the things needed to be done at home. If I say anything about needing help he’s defensive and again the way he’s feeling is entirely my fault, I’m the one who’s expecting to much. When all the while it’s the HSP’s he’s been dealing with all week. If I tell him that a new client is a problem child, he says no they are just nice or sweet, but they screw his every time. My clients are on time and if they are no call no shows, I’m concerned because this is so out of character I know something has happened to them and they do call as soon as the crisis in their lives is over. I surprised at how often its sited that HSP’s are so intuitive, how can one correctly interpret the information is coming their way if its so overshadowed by their own feelings. I have been intuitive all my life and I have a much better read on what is going on and who is going to be a psychic vampire then any HSP’ I’ve ever met. Why, because I know how to get out of my own way and let the information flow without filtering it through my oversensitive nervous system. Information gathered this way is tainted and gives the person a false reading of the situation. My husband is an HSP. I’ve read so many articles about what victims HSP’s are, I’d like to know where are the articles about how chaotic, over reactive, and down right mean they can be when not getting their way. How the world has to change so they can cope. Why is that? This is not just my husband I talking about. Why aren’t HSP’s supposed to manage their own stress. I don’t care if my husband needs time out I’m a big girl and can take care of myself. I don’t need him to hold my hand to carry on with life. I notice before he does that he is getting overwhelmed, if I say anything then all he does is get defensive and say no I’m not and you can bet your bottom dollar that within a few days he’s having another episode of outrageous behavior that is of course my fault even when I’ve done nothing. It’s like he can’t see his own behavior. When we first got together he’s come at me with all this shit about how it’s my entire fault he’s feeling this way and I’d try to defend myself. I’ve learned not to do this(most of the time) and watched him have blowouts without me saying a word just and waking away. It took a while but even he began to see that it was him doing it not me. All I can say is that at least I feel better for not getting caught up in his indefinable demons, what a poor victim he is, everyone is trying to control him. What he hasn’t been able to see is that it is him letting all these other HSP’s and people who have no real significance (I just call them the others because it can be anyone) into his life are causing to be some kind of psychic vampire collecting all their woes as if they are his own. Does he take to time to learn how to close down his energy grid and be concerned or compassionate instead of empathetic and taking it all into himself? NO. It’s easier to be the nice guy so everyone thinks he’s so good and not give a damn about family. Why because he knows that family already know who he really is and how he behaves.

We own a business together and I watch how he collects other HSP’s in droves as his clients, all they do is bring chaos into our clinic. No call No show, being chronically late putting him behind for the next client and so he often feels overwhelmed and tense. Does he stop these people from coming into the clinic…? NO. By the end of the week he’s toast and can’t do the things needed to be done at home. If I say anything about needing help he’s defensive and again the way he’s feeling is entirely my fault, I’m the one who’s expecting to much. When all the while it’s the HSP’s he’s been dealing with all week. If I tell him that a new client is a problem child, he says no they are just nice or sweet, but they screw his every time. My clients are on time and if they are no call no shows, I’m concerned because this is so out of character I know something has happened to them and they do call as soon as the crisis in their lives is over.

I surprised at how often its sited that HSP’s are so intuitive, how can one correctly interpret the information is coming their way if its so overshadowed by their own feelings. I have been intuitive all my life and I have a much better read on what is going on and who is going to be a psychic vampire then any HSP’ I’ve ever met. Why, because I know how to get out of my own way and let the information flow without filtering it through my oversensitive nervous system. Information gathered this way is tainted and gives the person a false reading of the situation.

]]> by: Kevin Wicker http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-153 Wed, 23 Aug 2006 00:19:07 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-153 Have a strong sense of self esteem, and an ability to see the bigger picture. Love isn't as fulfilling unless it is given away. Give yourself time away from your HSP partner, as well. Having quality time with yourself makes you stronger and more grounded. However, abuse is out of the question. You are doing the abuser (and yourself) a big favor by removing yourself from the relationship -- the sooner the better. Have a strong sense of self esteem, and an ability to see the bigger picture. Love isn’t as fulfilling unless it is given away.
Give yourself time away from your HSP partner, as well. Having quality time with yourself makes you stronger and more grounded.
However, abuse is out of the question. You are doing the abuser (and yourself) a big favor by removing yourself from the relationship — the sooner the better.

]]> by: The HSP, Alcoholic, or Controlling Partner http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-40 Mon, 24 Apr 2006 01:32:33 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/the-hsp-relationships/#comment-40 [...] I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or  The HSP & Relationships may prove helpful if you’re a bit confused with this term. ] Essentially she wanted to know “What about us?” And that provoked me into thought. She’s right. What about those people involved with the Highly Sensitive Person? Or the alcoholic/addict for that matter? [...] […] I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or  The HSP & Relationships may prove helpful if you’re a bit confused with this term. ] Essentially she wanted to know “What about us?” And that provoked me into thought. She’s right. What about those people involved with the Highly Sensitive Person? Or the alcoholic/addict for that matter? […]

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