Comments on: What is Codependency? http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/ Embracing the Journey Wed, 19 Nov 2008 12:57:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.6 by: Susan Lim http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-17642 Thu, 31 Jul 2008 05:19:25 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-17642 Wow, I never even know I have this co-dependency problem. These statements really beat me. I kinda felt these most of the time - trying to accept too much. <i> I kept thinking, “Well no wonder I drink all the time. I haven’t learned how to agree with my boyfriend when he steals from me and then tells me to get over it.” or “Agree that I really wasn’t violated. That I had somehow made it all into too big of a deal.” I felt that if I could just understand and work on agreeing to my mistreatment from other people then I would be healed. Thank god I would later understand it to mean “to hold as true” as opposed “to live with, or swallow.” </i> Wow, I never even know I have this co-dependency problem.

These statements really beat me. I kinda felt these most of the time - trying to accept too much.

I kept thinking, “Well no wonder I drink all the time. I haven’t learned how to agree with my boyfriend when he steals from me and then tells me to get over it.” or “Agree that I really wasn’t violated. That I had somehow made it all into too big of a deal.” I felt that if I could just understand and work on agreeing to my mistreatment from other people then I would be healed.

Thank god I would later understand it to mean “to hold as true” as opposed “to live with, or swallow.”

]]> by: Taking Care of Ourselves - Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-15540 Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:24:24 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-15540 [...] I said in another article that I think codependent dis-ease is the fastest spread of all socially unhealthy thought memes and I stand by it. Codependency is a way of life. It’s not a mutant genetic formation. It’s not an organic disease. You probably can catch it since I’ve never seen anything spread faster than this warped view, but it’s probably more of a social dis-ease in the form of bad ideas spreading.  [...] […] I said in another article that I think codependent dis-ease is the fastest spread of all socially unhealthy thought memes and I stand by it. Codependency is a way of life. It’s not a mutant genetic formation. It’s not an organic disease. You probably can catch it since I’ve never seen anything spread faster than this warped view, but it’s probably more of a social dis-ease in the form of bad ideas spreading.  […]

]]> by: The HSP, Alcoholic, or Controlling Partner http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-14155 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 14:15:24 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-14155 [...] Any of the above qualities could define a codependent relationship. I define a codependent relationship to simply be any relationship in which one or both partner/s turn over their own autonomy for well-being into the hands of the other. [...] […] Any of the above qualities could define a codependent relationship. I define a codependent relationship to simply be any relationship in which one or both partner/s turn over their own autonomy for well-being into the hands of the other. […]

]]> by: Manifesting into Physical Existence http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-13446 Mon, 07 Jan 2008 19:45:14 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-13446 [...]  If you still have low self-esteem and are a “victim” I encourage you to begin practicing Codependent recovery in order to free your mind into the direction of spiritual growth. When we are truly victimized - and this is a part of life too - we can choose to get up, deal with it, and continue moving forward in our own greatness or we can cohort with our victimizers and continue to keep ourselves victims; Provided we have the tools in which to make that choice. Codependent recovery gave me that choice. I encourage everyone reading this, too, to make that choice. Your life will change 180* I swear on everything holy. Decide to quit being a victim right now and then practice the principles of Codependent Recovery in tandem with these four basic Metaphysical Lessons. [...] […]  If you still have low self-esteem and are a “victim” I encourage you to begin practicing Codependent recovery in order to free your mind into the direction of spiritual growth. When we are truly victimized - and this is a part of life too - we can choose to get up, deal with it, and continue moving forward in our own greatness or we can cohort with our victimizers and continue to keep ourselves victims; Provided we have the tools in which to make that choice. Codependent recovery gave me that choice. I encourage everyone reading this, too, to make that choice. Your life will change 180* I swear on everything holy. Decide to quit being a victim right now and then practice the principles of Codependent Recovery in tandem with these four basic Metaphysical Lessons. […]

]]> by: Words Can Harm. Words Can Heal. [Epilogue] http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-864 Fri, 10 Nov 2006 17:05:48 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-864 [...] This series heeds caution to people who may find themselves in dangerous situations. It’s for verbal lashings and sometimes even “innocent” verbal faux pas’. It’s not going to make death threats sound sweeter or better and it’s not going to “make him or her” stop making death threats or belittling you if s/he is so inclined. If you’re currently at the mercy of such a relationship I would highly advise you begin working on Codependency Recovery - and there are plenty of areas and resources here in which to get started.  [...] […] This series heeds caution to people who may find themselves in dangerous situations. It’s for verbal lashings and sometimes even “innocent” verbal faux pas’. It’s not going to make death threats sound sweeter or better and it’s not going to “make him or her” stop making death threats or belittling you if s/he is so inclined. If you’re currently at the mercy of such a relationship I would highly advise you begin working on Codependency Recovery - and there are plenty of areas and resources here in which to get started.  […]

]]> by: samsara http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-49 Mon, 08 May 2006 18:12:17 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-49 I have felt the same way Mon. If I feel like my past agreements have left altogether, all I need is about an hour with my Mother to zen master me back into the truth. When I first worked the steps I remember clearly thinking "I have no resentments" and then my sponsor asked me to write my fears first. THERE they came. THEN I was able to uncover more and eventually get into myself. I, too, had been physically unable to speak my truth. Today I can fall back into it but at least today I know why I do it...for survival. Still. ...what's better today is that I can call someone, who is safe, and speak my truth. That's the difference. Then I don't have to starve, drink, hurt unmanageably, over it. Thank you for voicing! :) I have felt the same way Mon. If I feel like my past agreements have left altogether, all I need is about an hour with my Mother to zen master me back into the truth.

When I first worked the steps I remember clearly thinking “I have no resentments” and then my sponsor asked me to write my fears first. THERE they came. THEN I was able to uncover more and eventually get into myself. I, too, had been physically unable to speak my truth. Today I can fall back into it but at least today I know why I do it…for survival. Still. …what’s better today is that I can call someone, who is safe, and speak my truth. That’s the difference. Then I don’t have to starve, drink, hurt unmanageably, over it.

Thank you for voicing! :)

]]> by: Mon http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-45 Tue, 02 May 2006 16:49:42 +0000 http://samsara.ihostyou.com/what-is-codependency/#comment-45 I don't belive in coincidences, so it was meant to be that you commented on my blog! I think this is my kinda spot to visit! I thought I beat this codependant thing, but it still rears its ugly head in my life! Codependant No More really helped me, and so did Struggle for Intimacy. I fought with not getting sucked into relationships so I shut off my feelings. I did just what this post said, because of past abuse I was afraid to talk. I physically couldn't make myself voice my own opinion. I don’t belive in coincidences, so it was meant to be that you commented on my blog! I think this is my kinda spot to visit! I thought I beat this codependant thing, but it still rears its ugly head in my life! Codependant No More really helped me, and so did Struggle for Intimacy. I fought with not getting sucked into relationships so I shut off my feelings. I did just what this post said, because of past abuse I was afraid to talk. I physically couldn’t make myself voice my own opinion.

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