In the article I said that people who gossip are so scared of their own truth and have great fear about discussing their *own* selves so they limit their shallow minds to gossip and rumors of others right? [Some may do it for attention *or* to try to insulate themselves with people “on their side” so they can feel righteous on some matter. Either way, it’s to another person’s detriment.]

If the person gossiping or spreading a rumor really *did* care - as s/he may act under the guise of caring - does it not make sense s/he would go to the subject of the rumor or gossip?

Well. It occurs to me how some of you may want to solve your rumor or gossip problem based on how I handled something - like I said - AFTER this article.

A drunk woman told me all about how another woman said all this stuff about me…to make matters worse, I went out on limbs for this other woman for the sake of my beloved.

One day in her presense she happens to bring up the name of the drunk woman in sharing some story. My beloved [god bless him!] said, “You remember ________ don’t you Sam?”

I said: “How could I forget? She got nice and drunk and told me how _______ said…”

He said: “…yeah how she was so upset and disturbed about you and…” […and so it went…with the woman witnessing our playful banter.]

The woman looked flustered and made some piteous excuses and he and I just stared at her unblinking and un-nodding [ as she seemed to have tried to spin it to be not too much of anything.]

The point is then that we both let her know that we knew. I asked him, later, why he did that [as grateful as I was that he did!] and I was proud when he said…”Because she has to learn that her words DO have consequences. And we just let her have her consequence.”

Now I am not saying she will never gossip or rumor or badmouth anyone else ever again but she certainly knows something about my beloved and me and that is that we will not let *politeness* or *for the sake of harmony* ruin our own integrity.

…and what else I learned after this is that people who badmouth, rumor, or gossip, have great fear of it coming back to them…they seem to never think it will. But if confronted with the truth, I wonder how many would think twice?

PLUS…the point wasn’t to *teach her a lesson* for me. For me the point was to let *her* know I had no fear of her badmouthing ; that I was willing to let her know I knew about it.

So if anyone can get anything from that, I hope you do! :)